Things to be thankful for:






For me, thanksgivings have traditionally been small. Until I was 16, I had no siblings and still consider myself to be an only child. My mom has a brother that she isn't particularly close to. Two years ago, my mom and I decided to cook our very first thanksgiving dinner at my grandfather's house. My Auntie, in the past, would fill a table with dishes at Thanksgiving, so my mom and I tried our hardest to live up to that. Mom and I giggled and mimicked my grandfather and giggled some more and somehow produced a turkey and like a million casseroles and vegetable dishes (swimming in butter, the only acceptable way in the south). Sitting around the table were my grandfather, my mom, me, my great aunt, and my grandfather's friend, Mr. Nate. Mr. Nate told stories on my grandpa and my grandpa talked about how rich Mr. Nate is while we all pretended to be embarrassed. That was probably my favorite Thanksgiving.
This year I found myself on a couch, next to my fiance, in a room chock full of people, chimes in hand, playing along to a Christmas song. I had that moment where I looked around and wondered how I got here and thought that a year ago this scenario was beyond anything I would have imagined. I mean, not in a bad way, except for the part where an aunt asked me how I was liking it and, not being a very enthusiastic person in general, I told her it was lovely. I think she might have been a little offended because lovely came out a bit flatter than I'd intended. And I guess that's the thing about being around a family that's not your own: you don't get to go take a nap when you're done talking and "meh" is not an acceptable answer. So it can be a bit stressful, at least at first, until maybe people get that enthusiasm is reserved for taking pictures of your friend's wig and
nerd jokes, and the humor in the fact that the highlight of your fiance meeting your grandfather was that nobody got punched in the face.
